Last night in my class about relationships for teenage girls, I read them something I wrote.
Let’s stop for a second and acknowledge the annoying image of a professor who quotes himself. Hey, but what can I do? I like my stuff. : )
Anyway, I wrote:
A person is not just specific character traits. A person is not just his kindness or his giving nature. Nor is he just his lack of confidence that you see sometimes. A person is a whole being, with many, many character traits. And if you just focus on one or two at a time, then you’re feelings for the person will constantly jump all over the place. One moment he’s the best thing in the world, the next, he’s really not very good at all.
But if you remember that he’s a full person, with some things expressing themselves more sometimes and others other times, then that helps you keep focus on who he is as a whole.
He isn’t just a big nose, nerdy shoes or a quiet person.
So now I was just thinking that actually life is like that too. My mood is thrown all over the place in the course of a day. I had a tough time at work? :( Then someone did something nice for me? :) And then I read something upsetting? :( :( :(
Everytime something happens, it becomes my focus. Sometimes for a few moments, sometimes for hours or days. And my mood is affected by that.
But if somehow I were capable of keeping my mind on the bigger picture, or in other words, keeping perspective of life’s events, maybe I wouldn’t feel like a ping-pong ball.