He isn’t just a big nose, nerdy shoes or a quiet person

Last night in my class about relationships for teenage girls, I read them something I wrote.

Let’s stop for a second and acknowledge the annoying image of a professor who quotes himself. Hey, but what can I do? I like my stuff. : )

Anyway, I wrote:

A person is not just specific character traits. A person is not just his kindness or his giving nature. Nor is he just his lack of confidence that you see sometimes. A person is a whole being, with many, many character traits. And if you just focus on one or two at a time, then you’re feelings for the person will constantly jump all over the place. One moment he’s the best thing in the world, the next, he’s really not very good at all.

But if you remember that he’s a full person, with some things expressing themselves more sometimes and others other times, then that helps you keep focus on who he is as a whole.

He isn’t just a big nose, nerdy shoes or a quiet person.

The end.

So now I was just thinking that actually life is like that too. My mood is thrown all over the place in the course of a day. I had a tough time at work? :( Then someone did something nice for me? :) And then I read something upsetting? :( :( :(

Everytime something happens, it becomes my focus. Sometimes for a few moments, sometimes for hours or days. And my mood is affected by that.

But if somehow I were capable of keeping my mind on the bigger picture, or in other words, keeping perspective of life’s events, maybe I wouldn’t feel like a ping-pong ball.

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4 thoughts on “He isn’t just a big nose, nerdy shoes or a quiet person

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  1. Hmm I’m like that too. I can be happy all day and then one little thing happens and I become :( do you think I’m just overly emotional? is this a girly thing or does everyone experience that?

  2. “But if you remember that he’s a full person, with some things expressing themselves more sometimes and others other times, then that helps you keep focus on who he is as a whole.”

    -Boy, you’re not kidding-take it from someone married to the same man for 14 years. Sometimes you REALLY. REALLY need to focus on the whole range of good stuff that he is-sort of like a mantra!! But, you know what-it’s worth it!!! No one in this world can make me laugh quite like he does-and vice-versa. Sometimes, we don’t even need full sentences anymore!! Don’t tell him this but I wouldn’t trade his quirks for anything.

    By the way Deena-I like your stuff too!! So feel free to quote.

  3. Hey Jenny, You know, I’m still undecided about if this is considered being “overly emotional”. I have been told that this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s just a thing and you have to build your life accordingly. Meaning, if you’re very sensitive, you have to try, as much as possible, to put things in your life that make you happy.

    I’d think it’s more a girl thing, wouldn’t you? But guys are also affected by what goes on so I’m not sure.

  4. D.,

    So funny! This is so part of being in a committed relationship. And like you said, if you’re with the right person, then it’s hopefully all “worth it.”

    Thanks for the compliment! I hope you’ll continue to visit!

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