The other day I saw a movie about “coming out” in a Jewish school in the US. The movie is called Hineini and it’s a documentary about a girl who worked hard to make sure that her school was gay friendly.
The first time she met with the principal of her school, he said something to her that hurt her very much. He said something like, “It is sick to view the world through sexuality.”
Afterwards I thought about that line and felt like maybe that was what bothered me about the whole gay issue. That at least from the outside, it often looked like a major focus was put on the sexuality of people in the “gay community” when really that is only a small part of a whole being. I wonder(ed) why so many gays seem to be so gung ho about their sexual orientation when really all it is is a sexual orientation.
And then today I was given an idea of why this might be.
I was speaking to someone else who was at the showing and I told him my feelings about what the principal in the movie said. This person said to me, “I was born with a heart defect. I had to have an operation when I was a little kid and again when I was a teenager. I don’t think about it all the time but it is often something that makes me feel different than everyone else.”
Suddenly that made things click for me a little more. It is true that we all have certain things that get a major focus in our lives, whether they deserve that focus or not. It might be something that you’re really self-conscious about. It might be something connected to your family… Whatever it is, you, to a certain extent, view the world through that lens.
So then going back to the idea that it’s “sick”, well, maybe that is a harsh word but maybe to a certain extent it is unhealthy. I mean, if anything, those things in my life that get more focus than they are worthy of, are things that I am often trying to move past (accept, make peace with, whatever) in order to be able to view the world through a more clear and objective lense (if that’s possible). Because I do not feel like it is healthy to walk through life thinking so much about those things.
What do you think?