Will boys be boys no matter what or will they be boys only because the girls are letting them?
Why is it that girls have become so tough-skinned that they are willing and somehow able to be with guys who do inappropriate things (like, for example, looking at porn)?
I keep hearing about girls who accept many different kinds of things from the guys they’re dating because they don’t think it’s fair or realistic to have higher expectations. They complain about it and in many instances they are deeply hurt by it, but they figure that in order to be with a guy, they just have to take it.
I have a theory. Girls are obviously not as sexually oriented as guys. And the impression we get is that guys are so sexual that for them it’s practically out of control. Or, to a certain extent, it is out of control. So that would mean that girls really do have no choice but to be with a guy who is barely able to contain himself. Because that’s how guys are. And if he has certain urges and follows through on them, we can’t blame him because those urges are stronger than us girls can imagine.
I would have to say that I think this is horse doody. And I know guys who would totally disagree with this too. They will tell you that guys are definitely capable of containing themselves, acting appropriately, directing their energies in positive ways…
I think that one of the main jobs of women is to help men become better people. And us allowing men to act not nicely is defeating that purpose. I believe that if women finally had higher expectations from their men, the men would step up to the plate and try to be who the women expect them to be. Respectful, respectable gentlemen.