When you’re upset at someone, you need to challenge your current perception and ask yourself, “What parts of my perception might be wrong?”
AKA, we need to give people the benefit of the doubt.
This is one of the most difficult yet rewarding mind games one can place with him/herself.
Often when I get upset at someone, I feel annoyed but at the same time I try to ask myself, what is this person going to tell me that might totally explain what happened and make me realize they did nothing wrong? And I must admit that when I do tell them what I’m upset about, it is often extremely enlightening to hear what that person has to say.
And the rewards are obvious. Much less stress and more loving relationships.
Man oh man, is it tough!